tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post7161701088077153016..comments2024-03-12T17:23:54.416-07:00Comments on life with greyson + parker: sensitive selfmommykellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07697924681816487574noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-49330770008271305972013-09-15T19:51:18.999-07:002013-09-15T19:51:18.999-07:00Chrissy,
Thank you for the gift of your writing. ...Chrissy,<br /><br />Thank you for the gift of your writing. I'm so sorry for those hurtful comments. <br />I think I am sensitive about a lot of things too.<br />I have heard this book is good. I have not read it myself yet but probably could benefit from doing so.<br />It's called, "The Highly Sensitive Person" by Elaine Aron, Ph. D.<br /><br />I hope you had a good weekend. (I just stopped in to see if you had posted but<br />realize it is 3 hours earlier out on the west coast so too early for me to check.)<br /><br />Just know that there are many who look forward to your posts, me included. Thanks again.<br />Kerry S.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-70296194107211970832013-09-15T18:06:40.611-07:002013-09-15T18:06:40.611-07:00I too can be pretty sensitive. I try to put it int...I too can be pretty sensitive. I try to put it into perspective and somehow the rational me loses the fight with the not so rational me all the time. People say mean things, could be a power thing, being mean could be a hobby of theirs (who knows) If I need to get it out of my system I often will write a long lengthy letter<br /> letting them have it. Even though I never send the letters I guess its my way of letting off steam. The one thing I try to tell myself I will share, there are times in your life people will hurt you intentionally or not doesn't matter. They have the power to do this if you give it to them so try not to. Not so easy to do I know, but it does make turning the other cheek a little more bearable. You have a gift for writing, please continue opening your heart and sharing with others. Its not just your therapy, its ours too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-83920282438563404532013-09-14T03:17:51.140-07:002013-09-14T03:17:51.140-07:00No one has the right to criticize another with mea...No one has the right to criticize another with mean comments. That person needs to walk in your shoes. If writing your blog gets you through the day then awesome. If you think your boys have super powers then dammit they do. A mother knows these things. Keep on keeping on and be strong, sensitive and keep writing. I have no doubt it is helping more people than just you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-9301578983192199632013-09-13T18:07:43.628-07:002013-09-13T18:07:43.628-07:00Pastor Steve is AMAZING! I am blessed to call his...Pastor Steve is AMAZING! I am blessed to call his church my home and have many the enlightening word from him. As you know, he led me here and I am so thankful for your words each day.Lesa Herrmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03195538960828581317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-10699564792317462642013-09-13T17:45:24.200-07:002013-09-13T17:45:24.200-07:00I have a child in my home day care with SPD-he is ...I have a child in my home day care with SPD-he is hyposensitive. Before we started his therapy, he wandered around in a fog and is at least 6-8 months delayed. He had no words and almost no receptive language. He spends almost 50 hours a week in my care, so it was vital that I get on board with his therapy. I love this baby like my own (as I do all of my day care kids), and I spend a huge, huge part of my day working with him. The best part is the bear hugs because he's so adorable. A million times a day I take things out of his mouth and remind him to use his chewy. We bounce, we rock, we massage, we talk. After 3 months, he has one word, his receptive language has advanced, and he has joined the world! He is still delayed, but he is advancing at a decent pace. He plays with toys, laughs, runs. He is developing motor planning. But some days, I am so tired and overwhelmed after almost 10 hours of it that I want to cry. My solution is to bend my husband's ear (he's my rock!) and chocolate. He has taken it on himself to be sure that I never run out of chocolate. A little talk and his wise feedback and a giant Hershey bar and I'm ready to tackle to world again.<br /><br />I've had blogs long enough to know that some people are mean by nature, and if they weren't directing it at me, it would go to someone else. I don't know them so they can't really hurt me. I just try to remind myself that by being their target, maybe their spouse or child dodged some hurtful words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-80834720940115445302013-09-13T17:21:45.459-07:002013-09-13T17:21:45.459-07:00I so appreciate how much you put out there. You ha...I so appreciate how much you put out there. You have made a huge impact on me, just knowing someone else out there knows what it can be like to have a 4 year old son with ASD. So many of the things you write about Greyson are things that we experience in my home with my son. Your photos are gorgeous, your words are sincere, and I feel like if I met you, I'd instantly love you. I'm a second grade teacher and sometimes I get mean comments from parents. Like you said, it's a small ratio compared to the positive ones, but they sting in the moment. With a little time and perspective, I always realize the toxicity is about them and not me. And yes, having a personal pastor is such a huge blessing. I'm active in my United Methodist church and my pastors have been my saving grace when I am at my mental breaking point on more than one occasion! Have a great weekend! XO<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16043625861944319918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-55125418988821511742013-09-13T13:40:39.565-07:002013-09-13T13:40:39.565-07:00Chrissy! You are amazing and I laughed out loud wh...Chrissy! You are amazing and I laughed out loud when I saw Greyson jumping! My Neil is THE SAME WAY!! LOVES to bounce and LOVES to do it in the buff. Three cheers to freedom!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-1195262739079101692013-09-13T13:36:38.483-07:002013-09-13T13:36:38.483-07:00Oh Friend! I do not know of a clever or meaningful...Oh Friend! I do not know of a clever or meaningful thing to say to offset the meanness. But, I can tell you from my heart that it hurts when you hurt. I'm glad you have your pastor friend, he sounds pretty wise. When I have to deal with hard times, I circle the wagons. I immerse in my go-to people & let them do the heavy lifting when necessary. Ice cream usually helps. Then just keep putting one foot in front of the other.<br />World changing can be messy business. You're doing a hell of a job.<br />Love & happiness & wooHoo for the weekend to you, sweet Momma xoxoxo Jennifer<br />PS - Nudie bootie :)<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-36060934534409047932013-09-13T11:17:58.994-07:002013-09-13T11:17:58.994-07:00I don't want to give the doozie any more expos...I don't want to give the doozie any more exposure by talking about it. I just want to say that "I've LICKED Parker before BY MISTAKE because I am so in love with him. I meant to kiss him but somehow it came out as a lick" made me smile a lot. Love to you all, especially the ones with superpowers xClarenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-32710076420990952632013-09-13T10:05:54.139-07:002013-09-13T10:05:54.139-07:00Autism is a super power because people who have it...Autism is a super power because people who have it have incredible insight that us on the ground will never get to see. Many great inventors had autism so screw the meanies. Anyone who really takes the time to leave a hurtful comment about your blog does not have an autistic child that they would throw themselves under the bus for, and don't want to take the time to build awareness and empathy. I take every excuse to eat kit kats so don't lose that tool, but really negative people are putting out a lot of energy that is not helpful and you are shining the light. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-32550775617374735112013-09-13T09:39:48.432-07:002013-09-13T09:39:48.432-07:00Yes, you write the words I can't express. I r...Yes, you write the words I can't express. I read, I cry and I don't feel so alone. Haters goin' Hate, I guess. May today be filled with lovers and huggers. Thank you for what you do. It is the weekend before my birthday and it feels like a day to take care of me, To be soft, alone, and reflective. 40 has been horrible and I can't wait to reset a new year on Monday. <br />Thank you for writing such beautiful thoughts.Julie R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14477673380654051596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-76660094930686328622013-09-13T08:42:51.482-07:002013-09-13T08:42:51.482-07:00The words that fly from their fingertips have more...The words that fly from their fingertips have more to say about THEM than they do to say about you.<br /><br />I know you're not living your life trying to make everybody happy, and its a good thing too because you can't. Either you're not trying hard enough, or you're trying too hard and not giving your kids a chance to be kids. You're either exaggerating their issues, or you're minimizing them. You're either too lenient, or too strict. Often all in the same day. People label, and when they do, its always one extreme or the other. Sometimes I don't like other people.<br /><br />I love your blog. Because you're honest about the hard parts without dwelling on the hard parts and moaning about how hard your life is. Its hard. But we do it. Not because we're supermom or because we're so much more patient. Because you just do. What other options are there? I really appreciate how positive you can be, without trying to sugar coat the fact that with autism comes a lot of Hard Things.<br /><br />I love to hear how much you love your boys. And how you love the people in their lives. I love my kids too. They are absolutely amazing human beings. Sometimes its hard to see that when you're cleaning up poop from the carpet, but its still true. Even when life is hard, my boys are still miracles, God is still good.Samjihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13538274785618523953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-1637485000072581582013-09-13T08:37:14.702-07:002013-09-13T08:37:14.702-07:00Chrissy,
Those mean comments are just validation ...Chrissy, <br />Those mean comments are just validation that the work you are doing here is important and needed! You spread love, tolerance, and acceptance through your writing and as long as there are people who can't keep their mean tongue/typing fingers in check, then people like you still have important work to do.<br /><br />And, I loved that you accidentally licked your son and then told us about it - completely priceless. I too have a delicious son who despite his SPD that made kisses need to be wiped off, I accidentally kissed, like a thousand times. I would see his sweet head and completely forget NOT to kiss him. He finally got used to my kisses - if they are not wet and only from mommy he can "take it" as he puts it.<br />SleepyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06376081238808090583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-62807404016877963842013-09-13T06:24:52.041-07:002013-09-13T06:24:52.041-07:00I love the honesty that is your blog and most of a...I love the honesty that is your blog and most of all, I relate to the way that your thoughts bounce around the page and all come together in the form of a life lesson. Those lessons are relentless and it is so inspiring to come to your blog and find a piece of my own self within your words. <br /><br />My own blog is just a small, personal account of life and the way I see it. I censor what I print off and send to my mom because she is highly sensitive to anything she sees as painful for her children (I am 52 years old and she STILL loses sleep over what she thinks that I may be feeling!). This week in particular, I have closed myself off from the honesty that usually seeps out of my fingers because my mom was over-the-top worried about me. Living out loud is a risk. But I don't want to hurt my mother in the course of my actions so I have kept to myself this week. And it hurts.<br /><br />Thank you for writing exactly what I needed to read today. You open my eyes each and every morning. You go very well with my second cup of coffee and I look forward to what your next post has to bring into my day.<br /><br />Thanks, Chrissy. You are spreading kindness into (what can sometimes be) a harsh world. The world needs people just like you. Have a great weekend!Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09421075483349777391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-74958388755921520062013-09-13T06:17:56.500-07:002013-09-13T06:17:56.500-07:00i was reading your post and before you got to the ...i was reading your post and before you got to the pastor part, i was actually thinking of a post of his i recently read (http://www.stevewiens.com/2013/03/12/to-parents-of-small-children-let-me-be-the-one-who-says-it-out-loud/) and how it reminded me so much of you- the sheer honesty that so many of us (sometimes me too, although i'm usually considered inappropriately honest) are afraid to write or say out loud. your post a few days ago about doodle being annoying one second and amazing the next really struck a chord with me and as soon as i read it i thought of my own son and sat in my chair, relieved of stress, and just thought "YESSSSSS! someone else GETS IT!" <br /><br />ANYWAY- you and your boys and your blog are how i start my day each day, and there's a reason for that- because you're real and approachable and have things to say that i just need to read each morning before i jump into the crazy of work and home and Life. keep going.J-Schmidtyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17711198339901208361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-84074808557227194212013-09-13T05:24:51.178-07:002013-09-13T05:24:51.178-07:00"Keep being Chrissy: the vulnerable, imperfec..."Keep being Chrissy: the vulnerable, imperfect mom who writes what other people feel but can't put into words, so that many people who feel unbelievably alone in their parenting, will feel much less alone after reading your blog." So true. Thank you so much for sharing your life that is so identifiable to me and so many others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-47281695227804212182013-09-13T05:21:41.404-07:002013-09-13T05:21:41.404-07:00To thy own self be true!To thy own self be true!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-65672510188297644132013-09-13T05:03:47.292-07:002013-09-13T05:03:47.292-07:00May God Bless you for making the world better, one...May God Bless you for making the world better, one blog post at a time. Chocolate is my go to comfort, and maybe some junk food, too..... pizza, or McD's....... ;)Tracee S.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-16428087822305224202013-09-13T04:01:46.341-07:002013-09-13T04:01:46.341-07:00I love your honesty. I love that you show the hard...I love your honesty. I love that you show the hard and the good all at the same time, because that really is what life is about. Thanks for being who you are and being willing to share it. I send your posts to friends who have lost loved ones, to friends going through marriage struggles, to friends who are just struggling with life. It all translates and it's all true.<br /><br />P.S. Thanks for linking Pastor Steve's blog. It's wonderful!Melianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-27016594103820739712013-09-13T02:07:30.927-07:002013-09-13T02:07:30.927-07:00The pastor is right...your sensitivity is such a g...The pastor is right...your sensitivity is such a gift. Being able to put it in writing is a talent and sharing your words is so brave. My sister and I love your blog, talk about it many mornings and save many posts for inspiration. Thank you for what you do. Halloween is coming...so stock up on those mini Kit Kats for the rough days and don't let the bullies silence your beautiful message. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-85101014298058300312013-09-13T01:48:17.074-07:002013-09-13T01:48:17.074-07:00Pepsi all the Pepsi I want! Keep.up the good work!...Pepsi all the Pepsi I want! Keep.up the good work!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-10824601352183853132013-09-13T00:32:34.115-07:002013-09-13T00:32:34.115-07:00Chrissy,
I have been reading your blog for awhile...Chrissy,<br /><br />I have been reading your blog for awhile now and I think you are truly amazing, inspiring and refreshingly honest. I have felt so truly touched by your words many times but this post moved me to have the courage to actually let you know. In each word you write, each photo of your beautiful boys it is absolutely apparent how deeply, truly and immeasurably you love those two perfect littles. The love you have for your boys is tangible, it is so deeply and purely expressed in every word. I think you are an amazing mother, facing challenges no mother should have to with such bravery. I hope that whoever wrote that can someday understand the love that you do. <br />My sister is an ABA therapist, she has the kindest heart of anyone I've ever known and she loves her "kids" like her own. I am a mother to an 18 month old boy who is my heart. You words will help me teach him that differences are beautiful, that being accepting and kind to everyone will help him live a rich and beautiful life and that loving people for who they are is the most important thing in the world. Thank you Chrissy for sharing your life, you are truly changing the world. Your boys are amazing and beautiful and they are lucky to have a mother that loves them like you do. <br />Jess <br />Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04933724243981355948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-67166729047394846272013-09-12T23:31:47.130-07:002013-09-12T23:31:47.130-07:00Thank you, Bay Ratt. You seem like one sweet smart...Thank you, Bay Ratt. You seem like one sweet smart cookie. It TOTALLY is your Guardian Angel. You deserve one.mommykellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07697924681816487574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8077151913672187133.post-41500181155255560042013-09-12T23:22:41.311-07:002013-09-12T23:22:41.311-07:00*HUG* Guess those mean people didn't learn fro...*HUG* Guess those mean people didn't learn from their mama if they can't say something nice to don't say anything at all. :-(<br /><br />Hm... getting through tough stuff... listening to music, or seeking out as much silence as I can possibly find. Sometimes rocking myself in bed and my Guardian Angel will stroke my forehead until I calm down. I imagine it's my Guardian Angel anyway. And eating stuff that's bad for me... good comfort food stuff... like Kit Kats... or peanut butter by the spoonful. And I remind myself I have to get through just one more step, one more breath, one more heartbeat... and I can do those one mores. <br /><br />I'm glad you found your pastor. Sounds like a pretty smart man. <br /><br />Have as great a Friday as you can... even if you need to be armed with mini Kit Kats to do it. :-) *HUG*Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16642779145911516033noreply@blogger.com