Thursday, March 13, 2014

beautiful Super Powers

Dear Gap,

I hear it all the time, Your boys should be models. I could totally see them in a Gap ad.

And I gladly take the compliment and chuckle knowing that just isn't a possibility. It's not because they aren't hauntingly beautiful- because they are. And even if I weren't their mother I would be confident in saying that they certainly have an undefinable spark of something that you just can't help but notice.

I am the proud Mom to two adorable little boys.

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Greyson who is 4 years old...





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And Parker who is two. We like to call him Doodle.

A few years ago my oldest son Greyson went missing. My hands shook constantly and fear punctuated everything I did. I couldn't dream, I couldn't taste, I couldn't take a single deep breath in. You see, his body was still there, but he was gone. His big blue eyes lost their sparkle, he no longer answered to his name or looked into my eyes. I searched the world over for someone who could tell me what was going on, someone who could say where my boy went and how I could bring him back to me. I would take his picture and ache at the emptiness I saw in his eyes that were rarely looking back. And there were moments, unbearably beautiful and sacred moments when he would look me in the eyes and really see me. And buried down deep, I could still find my happy little boy with that twinkle in his big blue eyes. I had to learn everything I could get my hands on about manual photography so I could capture the spirit of the baby boy I knew and loved, not the stranger I saw in blurry pictures. I needed a shutter that could click in an instant and relay the image my heart saw. I practiced my new craft daily, until daylight had burned away, my back ached and my heart and the camera finally lined up.

The puzzle pieces began to fall into place and finally we knew what it was called- Greyson was diagnosed with autism. Parker was eleven months old at the time. We were blessed with another perfect boy with sparkly blue eyes. As time passed we realized that Parker also has autism. Now I am a student of this new world of Special Needs- which we call Super Powers because it better defines them. Anyone who has loved a child with Super Powers knows they have an ability to bring out the very best in everyone they meet. If that's not a Super Power then I don't know what the term even means in the first place.

And today it hit me- Why can't Greyson and Parker be Gap models? I should be the last person to limit them, certainly not the first. Chances are my boys won't really follow directions, or stand still in a specific spot for a picture, they probably won't be like any of the models you have previously worked with- but they would help create an impactful, diverse and memorable message unlike anything the world has ever seen. Diversity isn't just about skin color. I would even be honored to help with the photography. 

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Like Martin Luther King, I have a very important dream for our future. A dream where my children, and children everywhere with "disabilities" are a regular part of mainstream advertising. The boys are wearing GAP clothes in every shot. These are the real, everyday children wearing your clothes while joyfully exploring the world.

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I have a dream where children with Special Needs are loved, understood and accepted. A dream where these children can grow up believing they can be anything they want to be. Because it is the truth.

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The more I thought about it, the more I realized- A campaign showcasing the beauty of children with Super Powers is exactly what Gap needs too. I applaud your value of diversity in your marketing. But the world still needs more real and less perfect. I want to help you show the world what we as their parents already have the privilege of knowing- These are some of the most amazing and beautiful children in the world, and they deserve to be seen and celebrated. These kids struggle to overcome things that come so easily to the rest of us. Things we take for granted. They teach us about patience, hard work, unconditional love and how to find the truest of beauty in the unexpected.

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I'm just one Mom, giddy in love with her boys, and I need your help to change the world while redefining beautiful. Children with Super Powers are beauty living out loud. They are our future, and they are perfect, exactly the way God made them.  April is Autism Awareness month- what a perfect time to begin something absolutely amazing.

Warm Regards,

Chrissy Kelly

FRIENDS- Will you help me share these important words, please? If you believe in my boys and in celebrating ALL of our differences- share this with your friends, and ask them to share it with their friends too. Help me send this around the world. If enough of us share it,  we can change the world. XO

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18 comments:

  1. So remarkably said. I hope everyone gets on this amazing bandwagon of love and beauty~

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  2. I agree, and hope Gap pay attention!

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  3. I shared. I love your blog - your boys are beautiful and perfect and I feel like I know them & you! We'd be great friends, I'm sure!

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  4. Great idea I'm glad you can see what others can't please keep trying to educate the world about autism your boys are awesome and you are a wonderful mother

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  5. I couldn't agree with you more about everything in your post. I often get the same comment about my son with Super Powers (that he could model). I KNOW you can make this happen!!!! I will share with everyone I know!
    -Colleen

    -Colleen

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  6. Amazing piece. I couldn't agree more.

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  7. What a great idea!!! I am so excited to share and for everyone to get onboard! You are making such a difference - thank you!

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  8. Wonderful!! My daughter has ADHD. She is a BEAUTIFUL child, inside and out, and I've often wanted to look into modeling. Except she, like many with ADHD, has a problem with eye contact and won't look into a camera very often. If Gap and other companies would listen and have open minds, we could share our Super Powered kids with the world!

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  9. I think there is something to super powers and sparkly eyes. People always comment on how beautiful my sons eyes are and how they have such a sparkle to them. I too lost that sparkle for quite sometime. But we are starting to see it again and it is beautiful! Your words never fail to inspire me Kelly. I look forward to your posts and share them with family and friends (and today the Gap too :) ) My son just started in home ABA therapy, it has been a big change in our life, but if it helps it will be worth every minute of it. I can hear him now in the kitchen with the therapist, lots of giggles, some cries but I like the giggles. Thank-you for sharing your family and your story with all of us! PS - I hope your book is published soon. When my son was diagnosed for the life of me I couldn't find a book written by a real family that didn't focus on vaccines, diet etc... I want real, raw, happy/sad, joyful! basically I want your story! (no pressure) :) Happy Friday!! :)

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  10. Loved this- my son has autism too- so glad I found your blog!!:)

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  11. I love your advocacy for your little ones! I'll share and can't wait to meet you next month at Write Doe Bay.

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  12. Hi, Chrissy:
    I've been here before, on this lovely blog about your beautiful boys, and was just directed here again by a friend. Lovely, lovely post.

    You might think this is weird, but I just wrote a song with the same kind of fervor and love--about this same subject. I'm not really a songwriter (i am a writer). It was just a fun way for me to explore something new, and this song came out. My daughter played and sang it on the recording we made using my computer. We have similar adventures in our own home, with our youngest son...

    https://soundcloud.com/janegmeyer/i-see-him-beautiful-2

    Warmly, jane

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  13. I totally agree with you vision. My son had been BOOKED by Gap on more then one occasion. Only to leave a shoot frustrated and with both of our feelings hurt. He too has super powers not visible to the untrained eye. He is gorgeous and just a Gaps style. But the photographers who he's worked with have no patience for kids that don't follow directions to the t. And my Robert does not conform. Lol

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  14. A few years ago, my son went missing too. All I have needed since that tragic day is love. So, sending soooo much love from Tucson to Fresno! You are all loved. We are walking the same road.

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  15. great idea, Chrissy!!! your boys are beautiful. have you seen this?
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/11/changing-the-face-of-beauty_n_4936279.html

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    1. For some reason the link will not work. But- if it is about the fabulous Katie Driscoll, then YES! A friend told me about her after reading my post. I chatted with her on Facebook over the weekend and she is the real deal. An AMAZING Mom.

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