Saturday, November 25, 2017

option B

Brilliant author and COO of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg, was grieving to a friend because there was a father-child activity that her recently deceased husband, Dave, was no longer here to do. 

Sheryl shares, "We came up with a plan to fill in for Dave... But I want Dave. I want option A.” While crying to her friend, he put his arm around her and said, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of option B.”




We recently decided we need to homeschool Greyson. We aren't sharing the details, other than to say this is the right thing for Greyson right now. Life is too unpredictable to speak in forevers. (I have to remind myself of that often). Despite significant advancement in Federal Laws, I am deeply gutted that our public school can't meet the needs of all citizens. 


I'll be totally honest, I am scared to death, but most of all, outrageously hopeful about his future and at peace. Just a few weeks in, and we are both finding our new normal. He is finding a calm and happiness that had been gone for months. And because of that, so am I. And not to brag, but he's already first in class. This is not our Option A, but you better believe we are going to kick the shit out of our Option B.

7 comments:

  1. congrats to you and your star pupil!! Doing what is best for your child always earns top marks!

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  2. Brag all you want- first in class in every way. Calm is worth everything.

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  3. Yup, you'll kick the sh*t out of this Plan B. Deep breath and big smile. We're all rooting for you all.

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  4. Good luck and I applaud you for always doing what is best for your kids no matter how hard it may be.

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  5. Krissy, I am a mom and a teacher, and I know that you are doing the right thing! The rewards will really pay off in Greyson's happiness and ability to take it all in from his amazing Mama! Teach and love on!
    Shelly

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  6. I am right with you. I'm homeschooling my boys b/c my oldest is on the spectrum and I don't see how it is possible to send him to public school without a lot of trauma ensuing. Some days it drives me crazy, but I have to keep stepping back and asking myself why I'm doing this. Yesterday he flat refused to keep going on a math problem and sat there for 20 or so minutes on the verge of going into a rage. I was sitting there thinking, what would they do in a situation like this in public school? The teacher can't wait for him for 20 minutes while the rest of the class is moving on, much less how would they handle a full-blown melt down? Oh yeah, they would say you have x amount of time to do this worksheet and then we're starting the next activity. Basically, he would be left behind. Not even to mention all the other crap that I could get into. All that to say, I feel you. It is hard, exhausting, frustrating, but also extremely rewarding in ways I'd never imagined. Plus, when faced with the alternative....

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  7. kick some ass! i am so impressed with your patience and perseverance and mother instincts. great to hear you and G are finding some peace in this new arrangement. i'm sure it's extra exhausting for you, and i hope your grateful readers here can hold that space sacred for you while you do this hard loving work of parenting. thank you always for posting and for sharing your story. i always look forward to your writing.

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